How Many Times Can You Fall In Love?

[frank]

Love is not quantifiable, so infinite number of times.

[Hara Michiyo]

I don't think this is spam. This is quite a good discussion you have got going here frank.

To be honest? I really don't know how many times you can fall in love. I thought I was in love with my ex boyfriend. But, was I really? How can you tell, it's hard to distinguish what love is.

[Dew]

More than once. Most of the time love at first sight.

[Urahara_kisuke]

well i didnt love hiroshimi at first site i wanted to hate her the same as everyone else she made love happen she was different so i can really vote as she has been the only one i truelly loved

[Seraphim]

I'd say an infinite amount of times. Even if we aren't so sure it's love, how can we be sure that it isn't? During the time that we feel affection for someone, we may be ready and willing to admit that we're "in love" and that we'd love them forever. But by the time we break up, we may want to take back those declarations of love and deny ever having felt anything in the first place. Or maybe it "just wasn't meant to be." Does that mean it wasn't love, just because we aren't going to end up with that person, or just because we said so?

Then again, after a break-up, we may be heartbroken and aching for the person who hurt us. We may still care for them and wish them to be happy with whomever they fall in love with next. We may admit that "it was a good thing." We may be sad that it ended, but thankful that it actually happened. Does that mean we cannot fall "in love" again, just because we "loved" one person already?

There isn't a concrete definition for love. Love can mean many things to many different people. Love, at least to me, means that you'd want to spend your entire life with one person and give them everything of yourself without any regret.

According to one of my former teachers, love is not wanting to "get" as much as possible, as soon as possible. Love is wanting to give.

Love, according to the Bible, is "patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful, or proud or rude." It is, as well is not, several other things mentioned in that passage dedicated to the meaning of love [[ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ]].

You can fall "in love" with the same person more than once, I believe. There are people who have on-again-off-again relationships. There are those who re-marry the same person after divorcing them, I think. And then there are those people who secretly admire someone during the school year, forget them over summer break, and when they return to school, fall head-over-heels for them again.

Falling in love can be hard to distinguish from mere infatuation. Sometimes, it isn't. But I think that some people have experienced real love more than once. Some people may have experienced their definition of love more than once.

[7minutes]

It's really hard to distinguish what love is and what an attractiion is. Sounds daft but its hard to tell the difference. I've 'loved' some girls before but in my heart i know i didn't love them but thats not something i want to explain.

Lets just say, Hara is something special in my life.

[frank]

Thanks, Hara for the compliment. All of the responses are excellent, especially Seraphim's. But, because love isn't quantifiable, I think each of us will decide for ourselves whether or not any subsequent love, beyond the first one, is in fact love.

I think that there are different degrees of love and loving, and even though I think it is possible to fall in love an infinite number of times, I question whether any subsequent love has the same intensity as the first one.

[Renaki]

Matters...how many people are there in the world? Now lets divide that by 2. Then lets go... to 25 percent of that. So yeah. I mean thats if you move around alot.

Then again if you were born in washington..live in washington...arent living washington...its about 5 times. I mean... washington is filled with some cold haerted people. Lots of people that dont care... So yeah. 5

But really i would say 5.

Then again how many times has JLO and Britney Spears been in love?

[frank]

I know that Renaki had a message of some importance. Would you mind coming out from under my bed (which isn't a safe place, at all--monsters, ya know) , and telling us how 25% of x (the world's population) divided by 2 = 5?

Seems like it should be a little bit bigger figure than that.

And the rationale for having fallen in love with these 5, is what?

[Kuronue : Lord of Shadows]

it is dificult to say but if you can have your heart broken an infinant amount of times i dont think you could fall in love only once

[frank]

That's true, but the question wasn't how many times can your heart be broken, but how many times can you fall in love.

And the possibility for loving more than one person, at the same time, with the same amount of intensity hasn't even been considered yet.

[Frey Willhazen]

i say uncountable ... i mean ... u'll never know ... u might like the person ur wiv now ... but maybe once u live with em ... and find the real person they are ... u might change ur mind ... but then my parents only fell in love once ... 10 yrs of dating ... sad i recon ... no experince with anyone else :p

[Keated]

you can fall in love as many times as you can open your heart to allow someone in. perhaps a few more. everytime you allow someone to get close to you, you run the 'risk' of falling for them :P

[Kuronue : Lord of Shadows]

you can fall in love as many times as you can open your heart to allow someone in. perhaps a few more. everytime you allow someone to get close to you, you run the 'risk' of falling for them :P

true but you also run the risk of being shot down and your heart being thrown in a blender or it getting closed and it becomes afraid to open and let another person in or to get close

[Lady Sano]

you can fall in love as many times as you can open your heart to allow someone in. perhaps a few more. everytime you allow someone to get close to you, you run the 'risk' of falling for them :P

true but you also run the risk of being shot down and your heart being thrown in a blender or it getting closed and it becomes afraid to open and let another person in or to get close

yeah, i agree, life sucks, ya know!

[Kuronue : Lord of Shadows]

yeah i do

[Keated]

life sucks, then you die :P

the question, however, isn't 'how many times will you fall in reciprocated love, be happy together, blah blah...'

it's how many times can you fall in love. thus, i stand by my statement. even if you're shot down, even if your heart is ground into the dirt with a pointy stilletto shoe, you still fell in love. what happens after, until you next fall in love, isn't the question ;)

[Seraphim]

life sucks, then you die :P

the question, however, isn't 'how many times will you fall in reciprocated love, be happy together, blah blah...'

it's how many times can you fall in love. thus, i stand by my statement. even if you're shot down, even if your heart is ground into the dirt with a pointy stilletto shoe, you still fell in love. what happens after, until you next fall in love, isn't the question ;)

Right-o.

Hm, thank you, frank. ^-^

I agree with you you said about the degrees of love, and how the intensity of each attraction may vary.

[X-MAC]

how many times

probably infinite number

considering most of the time when you get dumped it really harms you

well i say infinite but each love is different
i still love my first

[ht]

Love...........
As long as your alive and have feelings love will continue, actually even after someone is gone you still love them or if you go they will love you. So, infinite...... positively infinite.

[snackonme]

Falling in love is something you should only do once. Because if there's more then one women for you, it wouldn't be illegal to have more then one wife. Besides falling in love should be super special. (damn spelling diffifulties) Why! Why! *sniff*

[Melee]

you can fall in love as many times as you can open your heart to allow someone in. perhaps a few more. everytime you allow someone to get close to you, you run the 'risk' of falling for them :P

I agree *laugh*

but seriously my opinion; take it or leave it ^_^

the word love now a days is overused and missused..
I just needed to vent that.

You can indeed fall in love as many times as your heart can hold,
(before it does break and you can bear it no more)
whereas the intesity will vary on the certain person.

Though I can assure you it's never the same, like you can't (and sholdn't)
compare yourself to others you can't compare they way you love different people. Like a signiture love for each one of them.

But I've heard somewhere that are true feelings for some one are
diluted? For if we were to feel all of the love we had for them we'd surely die.

[Dark Shadow]

... I once heard that our heart resided in our own mind... if that were to be true...

memory loss... would make us forget the one we have loved before...

as harsh as that might sound... I do believe that, based on that line, we can fall in love as much as our mind can take it... nothing more.

[silence]

Love is not quantifiable, so infinite number of times.

you can fall in love as many times as you can open your heart to allow someone in. perhaps a few more. everytime you allow someone to get close to you, you run the 'risk' of falling for them :P

end of discusison XDDD

okay maybe I thought that pun wasa bit funnier then others would have lol

[frank]

I used t think any number of times.

Now, I'm not so sure.

Love is still not quantifiable, but neither is the depth of love.

that is, like I can love you a little bit, and someone else a whole lot more.

But when your every waking moment is filled with thoughts of your love partner, then there may only be one true love for any of us.

[Dark Shadow]

yeah... I agree with frank... every once in a while we let someone inside our heart... maybe to see if that person is who we are searching for, if that person is not, we start searching again... at least... that's what I do...

[Takai]

I don't have a definition of love, I don't think there is one. But falling in love... you can fall in love many many times... It's not something you choose or decide. Your heart tells you what to do, not the other way around (sad but true).

[queenmisha1991]

I used t think any number of times.

Now, I'm not so sure.

Love is still not quantifiable, but neither is the depth of love.

that is, like I can love you a little bit, and someone else a whole lot more.

But when your every waking moment is filled with thoughts of your love partner, then there may only be one true love for any of us.

I agree with this one...but in all honesty, I believe you fall in love twice.

First- the first time you let someone in your heart, I believe that's true love.

last - when you meet the love of your life, whether it truly is the first person or not, and stumbled along the way.

As for me, I think I've already found both.

[frank]

I used t think any number of times.

Now, I'm not so sure.

Love is still not quantifiable, but neither is the depth of love.

that is, like I can love you a little bit, and someone else a whole lot more.

But when your every waking moment is filled with thoughts of your love partner, then there may only be one true love for any of us.

I agree with this one...but in all honesty, I believe you fall in love twice.

First- the first time you let someone in your heart, I believe that's true love.

last - when you meet the love of your life, whether it truly is the first person or not, and stumbled along the way.

As for me, I think I've already found both.

I really hope you have--if it's made you happy and fulfilled.

But if it's only caused almost unbearable hurt and pain, then I don't think that love was worth it, to begin with with.

The poet that wrote, "It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all," was simply writing beautiful words, without thinking about the love involved.

[queenmisha1991]

I used t think any number of times.

Now, I'm not so sure.

Love is still not quantifiable, but neither is the depth of love.

that is, like I can love you a little bit, and someone else a whole lot more.

But when your every waking moment is filled with thoughts of your love partner, then there may only be one true love for any of us.

I agree with this one...but in all honesty, I believe you fall in love twice.

First- the first time you let someone in your heart, I believe that's true love.

last - when you meet the love of your life, whether it truly is the first person or not, and stumbled along the way.

As for me, I think I've already found both.

I really hope you have--if it's made you happy and fulfilled.

But if it's only caused almost unbearable hurt and pain, then I don't think that love was worth it, to begin with with.

The poet that wrote, "It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all," was simply writing beautiful words, without thinking about the love involved.Well....this guy isn't causing me pain...just the situation is...

However, I wouldn't change my mind even if my life depended on it, and I believe he'd say the same.

[Montreal]

Currently, I think it depends on you. Some people move on, some don't. some never love again. You can't lump everyone together.

[frank]

Currently, I think it depends on you. Some people move on, some don't. some never love again. You can't lump everyone together.

Yes, I suppose you're right. Like I kept saying, "it isn't quantifiable." So maybe every time is different, if there are different times, which brings us back to the idea of an infinite number of loves being possible. ^^

[Soi Fon]

Love comes and goes. It's as numerous as it is unpredictable. It can be a simple crush to true love.

It's easy to fall into love, falling out is the hard part. There's a lot of hurt involved in it. When you have loved that person for so long and they betray that bond of trust, it's hard getting over that person, especially if you have made those lifelong promises and commitments.

[frank]

Love comes and goes. It's as numerous as it is unpredictable. It can be a simple crush to true love.

It's easy to fall into love, falling out is the hard part. There's a lot of hurt involved in it. When you have loved that person for so long and they betray that bond of trust, it's hard getting over that person, especially if you have made those lifelong promises and commitments.

I'm not sure you ever can get over that person. Not when the intensity has been that great. I do know that betrayals or broken bonds can lead to a bitter or cynical attitude that would stop someone from ever loving anyone again.

Somehow, that seems so wrong a thing to happen. So, maybe, yeah love isn't quantifiable, and it's an individual experence for each one of us, and even if we didn't want it to happen ever again, none of us would have much choice?

I don't think I like that consideration. For me. On a personal level. At this point in my life, anyway.

[Sarah]

I think you can fall in love only once.

It's possible to love many times, maybe even before you meet that one, very special person that you will have in your heart forever.

But I think that can happen only once in a person's lifetime.

And I have to agree with Soi Fon. Being betrayed is so hurtful and painful, it really just makes you want to curl up and die.

[Hara Michiyo]

It's very hard to define love, and it's many different sides. There is love for my family, and love for my partner, and my love for chocolate :) but they are all pretty much the same, but different. I make no sense, but my life is very much like that.

[queenmisha1991]

Love comes and goes. It's as numerous as it is unpredictable. It can be a simple crush to true love.

It's easy to fall into love, falling out is the hard part. There's a lot of hurt involved in it. When you have loved that person for so long and they betray that bond of trust, it's hard getting over that person, especially if you have made those lifelong promises and commitments.

I'm not sure you ever can get over that person. Not when the intensity has been that great. I do know that betrayals or broken bonds can lead to a bitter or cynical attitude that would stop someone from ever loving anyone again.

Somehow, that seems so wrong a thing to happen. So, maybe, yeah love isn't quantifiable, and it's an individual experence for each one of us, and even if we didn't want it to happen ever again, none of us would have much choice?

I don't think I like that consideration. For me. On a personal level. At this point in my life, anyway.

I think i agree with these 2 ideals most.

I mean....this is my struggle right now. I've been betrayed but i still love him, and don't want to lose him....

I mean, what if this truly IS the love of my life as i think he is right now? How do you walk away from that?

I stayed because I wanted to give him a chance and I'm glad I did. Even with the pressure of our relationship still going.

I guess my point is that you can't really choose what your heart should feel, which is why your head often conflicts with your heart, so I guess that's why you fall in love so many times in your life.

[Lady Vamp]

I agree with what Montreal said -- no two people can define being in love exactly the same way, so who are we to say for sure if anyone can experience this more than once, seeing as the very experience itself is so riddled with controversy?

[Leila]

exactly, as many others were saying... that you can fall in love an infinite number of times... yes thats true but what happens when you give up on loving after you have loved so much? :?

[frank]

I think most people will tend to get very bitter and cynical and be very distrustful or at least cautious, and self-defense mechanisms go into place that create an emotional safety net around that person that nothing and no one can penetrate.

It's probably a little bit different for everyone. Some people will always believe in love and be receptive, doesn't matter how many times they've been hurt.

Generally, though, most people who've given their hearts, their lives, their souls, to someone else as their bonded love partner, are damaged by the callous and uncaring, selfish and unblanced acts of those who grind that love into the foulness of their own insane, emotionally sadistic pleasure.

>.<

[Lady Vamp]

That's true, but I think that even people who have been hurt as gravely as you illustrate are capable of loving again. It just takes one heck of a person to draw them out of that emotional shell :3 and that would be someone worth giving your heart to.

[frank]

Yes. But when it happens repeatedly, over and over, eventually the circuit breakers trip, the circuits die, and no electrician in the world or heaven can make them whole again. You're left with a shell, filled with bittersweet memories, that will never go anywhere beyond what was and one's dreams.

[Lady Vamp]

I suppose it depends on what type of person you are. I still think that everyone has a chance of finding that one person who can fix you, no matter how broken you are. Call it optimism.

[frank]

I suppose it depends on what type of person you are. I still think that everyone has a chance of finding that one person who can fix you, no matter how broken you are. Call it optimism.

Yes. And I wouldn't try to take that optimism away from anyone; or give it less value than it has.

Forgive my own historical perspectives; they weren't meant for anyone other than myself.

I'm sorry. :(

[Lady Vamp]

Don't apologize -- it's your opinion! No one should ever have to apologize for their opinion.

Besides, you're more knowledgeable in this subject than I am -- I've never been in love, and I'm assuming you have.

[frank]

That's very gracious of you, Vampie! Thanks. ^^

Yeah, my opinions, very often, have been molded by my life's experiences. And sometimes I forget that, regardless of how I see the world--at least today, right now--that those are my experiences and shouldn't be even indirectly imposed on anyone else.

Especially not when it comes to trying to make some kind of sense out of some things that don't seem to have very much of that.

I would like you, all of you, to love and to be loved as many times as might happen, without any of you getting hurt or becoming bitter or cynical.

[Lady Vamp]

You know what? I've changed my mind.

Sometimes there just is too much damage to repair.

[frank]

: (

[Brian]

Never again, I've resigned myself to being a bitter old hermit.

[frank]

Easy to say, harder to actually do. Men and women, both, it seems, are forever destined to follow a cyclical pattern of love and hate. Not all of them, of course, but most people, I think, after they have had a "falling out," tend to retreat and withdraw, but their primal urges enter at some point and they go looking or are looked for.

[Akito-Agito]

I say that women and men can fall in love more than once, but Ido not believe that the number is infinite. I believe that someone can only fall in love so many times before their heart is...

Crushed to teenie-tiny pieces, never to be put back together again?

Yes, that's it. Only not so... brutal... sheesh.

:P

[frank]

Yes, I think we all have "circuit breakers" that, if tripped enough times, a permanent disconnection occurs.

[Akito-Agito]

-eye patch over left eye-

Some of us just don't have circuits in the first place. This wimp who calls herself Akito lets her circuit get tripped again and again. I won't let my circuits get tripped, now will I Akito?

-adjusts eye patch to right eye-

No.. You won't, will you Agito?

-adjusts eye patch again-

-slides into the shadows, grinning madly-

[frank]

Those who have no emotional circuits, then, certainly won't be troubled by the condition of love and its vagaries.

[KakashisLover26]

I have only fallen in love once and I do want to fall in love again :lol: